WOMEN AND CHOICES by -OlumideJUNE
Choice is the term ladies now use as excuse for not doing
some things or for doing others. For example you hear a lady say I am waiting
for the right man so I can make the right choice. Another will say, this is the
best choice I have come up with. Others will say God has given us the ability
to make the right choice when deciding on the man to marry. I quite agree with them all but this brought
me to the question of what if there is no option to choose from.
From the little I know, I am aware that choices are
made when there are several options, and choices are made based on excesses but
in a situation whereby everyone is fighting to have a grab, you wouldn’t want
to be waiting to make a choice all you will be doing is also to have a grab and
then later assess it if that was a good choice you made. Or what do we say of a lady who has never
been asked out by a guy, are we going to say she has a choice and she is yet to
make it? Or what do we say of a lady who gets dumped by every guy after dating
her for few weeks, are we going to say she hasn’t made a choice of which of
them to marry?
So please let us redefine that word choice in the ladies
dictionary, because that word has misled and is still misleading some people
instead of them thinking of ways in order to be able to have options, they are
still thinking they have a choice to make when there are no options. Please let
us wake up to the reality of life. God said he has given us the privilege to
make choices but he didn’t say we will have that privilege by doing nothing.
Even for a Lottery winner who happens to be one of the people that does the
least things to make the biggest amount of money they still have to do
something by picking numbers so why do ladies decide to confuse themselves or
should I say hide under the disguise of (capacity or incapacity) choices so as not to do anything and
yet expect something to happen. And for those that believe in
God’s miracle, miracles happen, but you still need to do something, you need to
have faith, you need to pray, and you also need to expect and welcome the
miracle.
I used to have a friend though now married, she was always
up to her game. Her slogan was “I have to always be appealing to people both
men and women so that when the time comes for me to make my choice I will not
be limited. I will actually have varieties, and the power to pick from them my one and only”. And she gave her reason for
being appealing to women as “I will not like to underestimate the channel
through which he will come, the woman might be the one to recommend me to him”.
That is the true definition of choice. Creating the options and picking the
best. Nowadays if you want to know the true colour of the lady beside you, ask
one of her roommates back in school, and you might be lucky to ask the one that
does not like her who wouldn’t mince words in describing her. In recent times, some ladies have this dirty,
local and messy lifestyle in their closet that is not appealing to the public
and then they have these stunning look on the outside and then men fall into
such traps. I remember a day I went visiting a friend and I was so unlucky to
find my head near the bed edge where she hangs her boxers, the smell coming out
of that zone………don’t let me describe it. Don’t just limit the creation of
options to men alone; let your fellow women know that you are good to go so
that when they are asked to assess you they wouldn’t fail you before you even
submit your scripts.
Life is not so smooth that we will lay low and wake up
someday and have a lot to pick from. If it was so easy to make choices will the
wife of the conductor or carpenter be with them? Or will the wife of the
cheating guy be with him? The answer is NO. They will probably be with Bill Gate
or Aliko Dangote or probably the holy ones with Pastor Adeboye or Bishop
Oyedepo.
Ladies I luv you and don’t think I am being harsh on you, it
is not like that, just that the more single ladies are out there the more temptations exists to the general public (LOL) ,so I need you ladies to step up your game and get those
guys hooked.
-OlumideJUNE
PostNOTE by IfeBamidele
I got this troublesome brother of mine to get this in for you this week, I am so sure you have opinions about this. I also do but will not talk until y'all talk. I think women should actually become choosers, how i do not know, but if you can gravitate to where what you want is, the higher your chances, a fisherman must have nets, and a bait. OlumideJUNE said get those guys hooked. The only way to do that is to be at the right place at the right time doing the right thing and maybe being proactive. Note i didnt say the last phrase before you say Ife said you should ask a guy out. My mouth is shhhhhuuuusshhed already. Drop your comments and lets get talking.
To read OlumideJUNE's piece last week on WHY OUR SISTERS ARE HUSBANDLESS click the link
This piece recieved many responses and some persons have sent me their opinion anonymously on this topic. I hope to publish this as soon as i can and also for your information, the original topic by writer is not Are the Ladies Choiceless but Women and Choices so dont crucify him.
Have a Funfilled weekend: for the ladies, GET THEM HOOKED, for the Brothers be Levelheaded to be caught in the Hook.
In wedding parlance its the lady who hooks the guy isnt it................. Still laughing, Bye.....
