Finding yourself

What would it feel like to find yourself?

We all hope someday we get to doing something we were really born to do. Something that would come so easy to us that we would not have to struggle with. We are sometimes made to believe that we are naturally skewed, call it talent, skill or maybe blessed to do something, but can this be true?

Would it not be nice to someday find a manual and see what you can do and what you cannot do someday, this would be a nice one.

Guess the day might never come but we sure learn by living. Many of us are in a search for who we truly are so we can know how to function.

I have heard a few say if you want to know about the product, ask the manufacturer, this sounds nice and is sure an option for those who know and believe in God, i recommend everyone should, but how many of us get to know God to the point that God talks to us in detail, sufficient enough to seem like a manufacturer's manual? What about those who do not know God or do not believe in God, will they ever find themselves?

Life is about so many questions, with so little answers.

Ask yourself today, Who am i ? Feel free to share your non stereotyped answers in the comments or with me, I am also asking the same question as i type and No the answer is not your name!

It feels good to type something on this page again with the hope of going back to blogging after about 7 years of abandoning.

It has been seven long years of appreciating the little things in life. In 2020 i hope i can keep up with this alongside the so many things a man has got to do.

Have a nice 2020 Finding yourself.

Ife Bamidele💗

Break Time

Hi,

So i decide to take a break from this blog and social media to concentrate on some other equally important matters.

Hope to be back soon.

Till then

Yours Sincerely

Ife Bamidele

See you

A WAY TO A MAN'S HEART 2 ( CHICKEN FRIED RICE WITH GIZZARD AND PLANTAIN) By, SleekTouch

Hello my beautiful people, am back with another edition of a way to a Man's heart. Today i will be talking about how to make this "deliciouness" (lol, i will put it that way)

My friends and family can testify that i can cook fried rice even when am sleep walking. (abeg no try am ooo, too much salt niyen) but lets see how these goes. Come along with me.
I have a different way of doing it, but i prefer this method you might have seen it been done a different way.
Now then lets do this,
You start with washing your rice to get a little bit of the starch off it. When that is done, put some oil a little bit, not to much of the kind of oil you prefer it could be vegetable oil, olive oil or sunflower oil. i prefer to cook with sunflower oil in a pot that will be enough for the amount of people you want to cook for oh before i forget have some chopped onions,cooked chopped chicken breast and scotch bonnet ready(rodo) if you like.

Tumeric (Indian Spice)

Chopped Onions and Chopped Scotch Bonnet

In process, rice, onions, chicken, rodo

Back to the oil bit, leave it to get hot abit, when this done, pour your washed rice in to the oil and stir continuously add the onions, scotch bonnet and i also use an Indian spice called Tumeric it gives it a green  colour  stir until the rice looks abit fried up, add some spices and salt to taste. Add some hot water and leave it to cook until its abit soft.

This is what it looks like with  tumeric. 

The next thing, is to get your mixed veg and mixed bell peppers ready. you can use fresh ones but i prefer to use frozen, just because am lazy and can't be bothered to start the chopping. (LOL)

Mixed Peppers

Mixed Vegetables.

When you you get this ready, add this to the rice and leave it to cook for about 20 -25 minutes.

VUALA!!!!!!

Doesn't this look on point????????

GIZZARD AND PLANTAIN.

I love this, it's not the typical gizzard and plantain, i don't like it too dry i add a little bit of chopped tomatoes and onions to make it soupy.

You start by getting some chicken or turkey gizzard, whichever one you prefer. wash to get all the dirt off it. Boil it add some spices and salt to taste.

This is what the gizzard looks like when it is done.

  Cut some plantain out, ready to fry so that it gets cold before you mix. don't make it too brown.

Plantain.

Put some oil in a small sauce pan to heat up a bit, you then add some chopped tomatoes and chilli powder with some onions and spices to taste. leave it too cook up a bit. you will then add the plantain and gizzard and leave it to cook up a bit. Trust me, it does taste good.

This is what it looks like.

Hope you will enjoy trying this out, please let me know what you think about this and if you have any opinion about a better way of cooking it.

Enjoy Cooking!!!!! 

Have a great weekend and Happy New Month!!!!

Communicating with your ex, YES OR NO? - OlumideJUNE

“They exchange messages regularly and he still says he misses her” these words which happen to be from a married woman have kept me wondering what the right thing is. When a relationship ends does it mean communication should end or it only has to be limited?  Having thought of this for a while I have decided to weigh the pros and cons of communicating with your ex. Ex as the word means refer to the past or former be it husband, wife, partner, friend etc.

If we therefore agree that it refers to the past or former, what are they doing in our present? Why are we allowing them to impact our future? Some have claimed that you never know the value of what you have until you lose it but I will go with the saying that if you never knew the value of what you had then you are not worthy to have had what you had. It’s just like a child who is given a diamond ball to hold and the child ends up breaking it, and probably sees a picture of him holding it when he grows older. He will definitely appreciate the value of the diamond then but in all sincerity, was the child worthy to have a diamond ball at that age? No!!!!!!!!!! So why do we allow some people give us crap by saying people are now appreciating their ex now that they no longer have them. Please guys we need to grow up. They are called ex. They have moved on. They are already having a good life without you. We also need to have a good life without them. Our future is at stake when we keep making them a factor that affects our future. I will not say do not communicate with them but I will advise that if your communication with them will affect your present and future in a negative way which most times it does then it will be better you do without them.

On a different note, looking at the fact that without communicating with your ex it is very unlikely to get back together with them so does this mean we should communicate with them to increase our chances of getting back together? Well let’s get it straight; having an ex who is still a prospect and having an ex who has moved on are two different things. An ex who is still single and is still contemplating you guys getting back might not be too bad to communicate with though as we know the devil you know is better than the angel you don’t know. But the truth is how do you know which ex is still single with the rate at which we have liars all over the community nowadays. Very difficult I must say. On the other hand having an ex who is on the verge of getting married and yet still chatting you up is a no go area cause that I can tell you is time wastage. Sometimes it looks so real that he might be coming back but it’s a mirage. He/she is never coming.

Now the question, are you meant to frown at your partner communicating with their ex? Well I will stand to say you have to do what you have to do to protect what you have. If frowning will keep him/her from the preys then better start frowning and if smiling will do the work then better start doing that but above all let your major aim be the safeguarding of what you have. There are also advantages in communicating with your partners ex as that might give you better chances of keeping your partner but it might be very risky if the ex is not yet settled with someone else. Those are dangerous paths to thread but if you feel you can do it then why not give it a shot you might just be lucky but I will advise you keep off.

Above all be wise when communicating with your ex because the bitterness that lies in them might be the beginning of your downfall. Wisdom is profitable to direct. 

Eliminating Violence Against Women in Nigeria: Yes, We Can!

Eliminating Violence Against Women in Nigeria: Yes, We Can!

This post came up and is written by my humble self as a volunteer of the Brown Button Foundation, Click link to read

http://asafeworldforwomen.org/partners-in-africa/partners-in-nigeria/brown-button/bbf-updates/3345-vaw-nigeria-16days.html

Thank you

Ife Bamidele

Basics About Your Hair- Know Your Relaxer by SleekTouch

Before i became a full time Hair Stylist, i have always had a problem with relaxers and having to decide which was best for me. At a point, i actually decided to start relaxing my hair by  myself, but before i did this i had to know what relaxer was best and how the chemicals works, because most people just use all sort and do a DIY(do it yourself) without understanding the basics.
Today, i will like to talk what Relaxer is and how to get the best one for your scalp and know which one works for you best. i have been doing my research for some time and i have finally gotten something to share.

So lets crack on.

Motions Lye-Relaxer

Mizani Lye-Relaxer

Optimum No-Lye Relaxer.
                                                              

Creme of Nature No-Lye Relaxer

Relaxers contains chemicals that turns natural hair to straight processed hair. There are two types of Relaxers. (lye and No-lye Relaxer)

When it comes to relaxing of hair, it can be quite confusing as to whether to use a Lye or No-Lye Relaxer.

To get to the root of this, we have to know what these types of Relaxers are, because it would explain how to choose the best one.

Lye Relaxers

The main active chemical in Lye based Relaxer is Sodium Hydroxide. The PH level in a Lye Relaxer is more than that in a No Lye-Relaxer. Its about 12-14 percent.

A Lye Relaxer makes the hair straight quickly, this is quite a good thing because you react to the chemical and tend to rinse it out quickly.

This kind of Relaxer can be used by people who have thick hair as it quickens the Relaxing process. You also do not have to mix this Relaxer with the liquid activator.

No-Lye Relaxer

The main active chemical in No-Lye Relaxer is Calcium Hydroxide. The PH level of a No-Lye Relaxer is lower than the Lye Relaxer but it is often associated with dryer hair because of calcium buildup.

One of the Reason some people prefer a No-Lye Relaxer is if ones scalp is sensitive as the chemicals in this type of Relaxer is milder on the Scalp.

It cannot be used on children's hair tho. People however used leave it for too long because its not too harsh which makes the hair too dry because of over processing.

To remove the calcium buildup, use a very good shampoo to remove dull deposits and follow with a deep conditioning treatment as a regular part of your hair straightening process.

It's best to contact a professional to decide what  kind of relaxer you need to use. It's not advisable to apply Lye Relaxer over hair that has been processed with a No-Lye Relaxer, but if you feel like changing it would work, you can do so. I changed to a Lye because No-Lye never relaxes my hair and am glad i did.

It's really good to stick to relaxer that works for you unless it stops working. It's also not recommended that you change your relaxer all the time.  

Are you excited about him/her? - OlumideJUNE

A lot of times when people meet and start a relationship, there is this excitement that fills their life like a young lad who has just been bought a bicycle and all that is in his mind is to show it off to his friends and peers. And just as the bicycle gets older and gets scratches and all sorts of wear and tear due to usage, there is depreciation in the excitement the lad has about his bicycle and at some point he even starts forgetting about the bicycle and even sometimes getting ashamed of taking the bicycle out. Many relationships have also followed the life cycle of the bicycle.

When we start a relationship, we are so excited and the partner becomes the only thing we are concerned about, we are all over the moon talking about such partners to whoever cares to listen and even those that refuse to listen we force them to by the time we repeat ourselves. We do not make complete statements without mentioning the partner's name. We change our passwords and every name possible to reflect the person's existence. And just when time flies that excitement starts fading and then we start discovering things that have always been there from day one of meeting such people but we never bothered about. Then you start hearing excuses why passwords have changed, why display pictures and status messages do not reflect the person's existence again. Some other people who have even been given rings even go as far as removing the rings they have been given and give excuses that since they are not married why should they be wearing such rings. All these things brings one question to my mind, "Do these things naturally depreciate with time or are we responsible for the depreciation as time goes on"?

I have wondered and thought of the factors responsible for such depreciation and the first question i will like to ask you is this. " Are you excited about him/her" When last did you tell them how excited you are about them being a part of your life? When last did you change your display picture or screensaver to theirs and declare publicly they are the love of your life? Some people come up with excuses such as "Am keeping it cool and coded" but this same people are the first to say to the world how much they love their friends, family members, the new bags they just bought or how much they love a football club and yet they have refused to even mention the fact that they have someone special to them. Some other people even go as far as giving excuses for their spouse saying he or she is not the type that likes public display and the funny part is that this same boy or girl is displaying other people as people important in their lives yet you can not be displayed because he/she does not like public display. (Better upgrade yourself).

I have discovered it is natural that after a while situations change and circumstances become different and the fire burning seems to be dying but i have some good news for you. Below i will be sharing some few tips on things that will always make you keep the excitement high and burning.
In a daily routine, how often does your partner impact your activities, whether they are present or absent? Simple ways you can impact their daily activities include but are not limited to these:

Let his or her car key, house key, office key have a key holder that has your picture on it.
Let his/her laptop password have something related to you in it.
Ensure that when you are around him/her there is something he/she does everyday that when you are there you add a touch of difference to it that even when you are not there and he/she is doing it they remember it would have been done differently if you were around. It can be as little as helping him knot his tie when going to work or as little has helping her unhook her bra. Such you know they do everyday and so anytime they are doing it your presence puts a stamp that puts a smile on their face.

Also think of it this way, how many lecturers during your school days that never taught you while you were in school do you still remember today? Am sure the answer is a few, some people do not even remember the ones that taught them. This is exactly how life is and how things get to depreciate, when there is no continuous impact or effect partners have on each others life, there is a tendency things just deteriorate not because anything is wrong but just because human life is naturally more responsive to impact rather than dormancy. When we start a relationship we are excited because there is an impact that the new person has brought, but when there is no consistency of impact or effect our brains automatically switch to a dormant mode which makes us feel the non existence of such partners again.

I will therefore wish to appeal to all single and married people reading this to spice up your relationships today and get them excited about you again and you too should get excited they are in your life. Put things in place that will make your day incomplete without their impact directly or indirectly. Do not wait for them to call you before you remember they exist. In case you also have some more tips to help please comment and contribute.


OlumideJUNE.