SOME MEN ARE NATURALLY WICKED AND EVIL: A lesson for all Men from a Feminist Perspective

And after reading it he said, “It might interest you to watch the video or read the transcript of 'the dangers of a single story'”. And as the obedient child that I was I watched it and it opened my eyes to the words of the elders which always proved useful.

Many have heard men say I can’t put all my eggs in one basket, and this principle they have applied to every area of their lives without any form of moderation. They even go as far as applying this in their relationships and marriages - Should this be called wisdom or foolishness?

Let’s go down memory lane a bit. Having spoken to several people on relationship matters and I am sure you have read or witnessed some as well, you will agree with me that some men are just naturally wicked and evil.

The men are the ones who want a faithful wife yet want to have the freedom to have a 'taste' around when they feel like, giving excuses that it’s a man’s right and that this is what their forefathers did and that it worked for them.

You also hear some others say they will 'flex' around and sleep with as many as possible to gain experience - according to them, but then ensure they get married to virgins.

Lastly, you hear excuses such as I am only trying to keep her company because of her plight, because I feel sorry for her. You then see these men abandon their own relationships and marriages, for the sake of another woman's 'plight'.

The ultimate question that comes to my mind is where are these excuses coming from? And all I concluded at was that they had probably had terrible experiences in the past; witnessed some horrendous events, or heard about others - yet are these reasons enough?

Is a singular story or a couple of stories about men who did it right and were hurt at the end enough to make you want to do it wrong so that you don’t get hurt?  Is the singular story of that man who slept with several ladies and is now happily married with kids enough to make you want to do the same? Or is the singular story of that married man who is sleeping with other women outside and getting away with it enough for you to want to do the same? Is that one story enough justification for your actions? Is a single story enough reason to want to break up with her or is that single story enough to want to conclude on her? Why is that single story of her getting pregnant at a teenage age enough for you to conclude she is a whore? Why that single story of catching her caught 'pants down' with her ex enough justification that she sleeps around? Why is that single story of that chat on her phone enough reason for her to be a suspect?

Now let’s turn the tables around, did your one-time story of stealing dad’s car to go carry a babe/lady tag you as a thief? Did your past story of cheating on her and realising your mistake afterwards make you a cheat for life? Did your single story of rendering help to that lady label you as someone having an affair?

If those answers are No, then why not spare the ladies and give them a chance to live the good life you are longing to live? Why not allow them tell their own story instead of writing it for them? Why not give them a better future by you doing things right and not jumping to conclusions so easily.

They are our daughters, sisters, friends, mothers and wives...Why treat them the way you are treating them now? They have all it takes to ruin or make you; give them a chance and you will be glad you never gave up on them so fast.

OlumideJUNE 09/11/2012